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Birthday celebrations and me

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Birthday celebrations and me
Birthday celebrations and me

I have been thinking this morning about how uncomfortable I do feel in parties. Don’t get me wrong here, I am always happy people are celebrating one thing or the other like the birth of a new baby, birthday celebration, marriage ceremony or all but attending a party is always like a big problem to me.

Here is the thing, I can get an invitation card for an event two or three months to the event and then daily reminder in form of text, call or whatsapp message. Once, the day start get closer, I start getting nervous and then looking for ways not to attend such. Unfortunately, my health or mind seems to agree with that I shouldn’t be at the gathering. On or before the D-day, I get sick and not attend the event. I really don’t like getting sick with something because not only will I be in pain but I will also not be able to do anything. This thing happens a lot of time and I really want to get over it.

As someone who has a lot friends and family celebrating their birthdays on the month of May, this means I get to fall sick times without number and I did.  I just can bring myself to attend a gathering. I will be so uncomfortable that I get to be on my phone all day if I actually do attend and this makes people think otherwise and instead of hurting people’s feelings, I just stay home and nurse a day sickness.

I decided to share my thoughts and what’s really going on in my head online (Main reason behind this blog)  since I can’t bring myself to tell people.

Today, a family friend’s daughter is celebrating her birthday and I do wish to attend but I can’t.



Aside sending a birthday message, how can I (an introverted person) wish someone a happy birthday without being there physically?

Your thoughts on this please?

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13 thoughts on “Birthday celebrations and me

  1. Hi , Is there anything that bothers you to attend get-together ?
    If you want to come over it, then you need to find out , if you are facing any inferiority complex or you are scared to answer something which you don’t wish to answer. I’m sorry if I’m too direct.
    But according to me, there must be something that bothers you , and that’s y you are afraid to face people in huge gathering. Find out please. One should go out, have conversations, spend time with your loved ones and enjoy the moment. Pls let me know if you wish to talk , I will be happy to help you get out of this fear. Life is meant to be cherished 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for this. No, you are not direct. I can’t say I have inferiority complex. I so much enjoy being outside but I don’t seem to have the nerve to actually be able to get comfortable around people. I will definitely consider your offer if ever I need to talk about it.

  2. Really, you are not alone. Quite a number of introverts dread social gatherings and parties especially if it gets noisy and well crowded. Although it’s not a bad thing to feel that way, it’ll be a shame to neglect loved ones on their day of celebration. So, you must always strive to do your best and attend these parties even if it means spending only half the party time or less. You’ll be glad you did.

  3. I understand how you feel. You are an introvert, and many introverts suffer from social anxiety and most people don’t understand this condition. I’m not a professional psychologist so all I can recommend is that you google how to deal with social anxiety as an introvert and you will discover that you are not alone. 🙂

  4. Attending close gathering & wishing near ones birthdays should not be missed I feel so..Can’t be left out from very close people & sometimes !

  5. I get where you’re coming from, being an introvert myself. But realize this, you sometimes need to go to parties, even for the sake of friendship with the people that organize them. If they figure out you never go and always make excuses, they’ll soon stop inviting you to them and generally to their lives. No one can go through life completely alone. So bite it for those couple of hours, try to find someone to talk to in a quiet corner and enjoy yourself as much as possible. Then get back home and vent with a nice book or a movie. That always helps me.

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