I had always known myself to be a quiet person. I have being called secretive in my high school days as I am always keeping to myself. I talk less but listen more. I just love the friendship I have with myself. I never knew anything about introvert or extrovert but I just know I love being alone. While growing up, I always slept through family gatherings and parties. I thought it was due to shyness and boy, my parents thought that too. Never have I started a conversation with my age group, this should be easy for a kid growing up as I know how friendly kids can be. I never got into trouble both in school and at home. I could play without supervision as I might not move an inch while playing. My mom as a mother always wondered why I come home alone from school unlike other kids that walk together in group. She shrugged it off and tag me as a “shy kid”. I was, still and will be a brilliant individual. My “shyness” was not a problem while growing up because I was a straight “A” pupil.
My definitions of an introvert and an extrovert are different from what you might have known. To me, an introvert is someone who gains energy from being with alone while an extrovert gains energy from being with people. Now that we are all know the definitions of the two words, I can tell you that I am an introvert. I am from a family where extrovert and introvert are strange words. You just have to interact with people. My mom loves going out, she basically draws her energy from being with other people. She loves attention and I love her! My dad on the other hand is also “the light of a party”. My siblings can’t stay alone unless they are with people, talking, chatting or whatever they “do” with other people. But I am different like the “black sheep” of the family, and that’s okay by me.
People are creations just like me and I love sleeping knowing that when I wake up, I will hear voices around me. So this doesn’t mean as an introvert, you hate people. I mean, without my parents, I can’t be here. I have nice friends I look forward to talking on phone with, play board games with or just chat on social media platforms. At the end of the day, as an introvert I feel the need to gain more energy and I do so by going into my room and spend some time with me. I wouldn’t want to wake up the next day with no motivation or energy if I spend the reserved energy being around people.
I have being called a sadist in college but that’s not true. Introverts are not sadists or lonely people. Staying alone is an essential thing for an introvert. It’s like a “life support” or oxygen. It is needed. Yeah, that sounds boring but it’s not! I do have fun as an introvert. Here is what I picture as “fun”, a laptop with 1 terabyte HDD filled with movies I haven’t seen, a phone connected to the internet, a comfy bed or couch and a serene environment with little or no noise. Introverts will not likely reply your texts immediately but be sure it was received. We have you in our thoughts but won’t visit. Yeah, sometimes we missed your calls simply because we don’t have the energy for a long conversation (LOL, I am always asked daily, “don’t understand what “mobile phone” means?”). Still on phone calls, I got this text on Friday, 9th of June 2017 and it says “I hate you cause you don’t pick up calls when it is urgent” and this types of text won’t be the first and I don’t think will be the last. Moving to text messages? I have forty-something unread messages in my inbox and social media platforms messages are just too much for me to handle (don’t blame me). Not only am I an introvert but I am also a “Scorpio”. I am not typing this with pride but if I go out my comfort zone to spend time with you, CHERISH IT! It’s not easy introverts to get out their comfort zones.
Introverts are always known as “great thinkers” and intuitive individuals. I overthink a lot. I have lost a few “business associates” I met online because I was thinking if it was real or not. I think before anything. I think before eating or reading or whatsoever I want to do. We are not perfect but we strive towards that with our slow response to questions or situations. I take 3 times the time an average person uses in answering a question because I am/was thinking. Another thing is, introverts feels emotions more than an extrovert, taking myself as an example, I get sad when people around me are sad. I don’t visit hospitals because I might end up being sick while seeing a sick person. I am very susceptible to other people’s energies. You are sick, I am sick. You are happy, I am happy. You are sad, I am sad. Main reason I stay where there is happiness! Or alone!
Trust is also a big deal for an introvert. If I let you into my life, just know I have placed “perfection” in you. There some things I will expect you never do or say or act on. I lose interest a lot when I trust in something and it goes the other way. I work as a freelance virtual assistant, most times, I am advised to not execute a project without “deposit” but instead, I do otherwise and lose time, resources and money while trying to satisfy someone (I love making people happy at the expense of my happiness). This affected the way I view people. Introverts loves “reading” people, we don’t need to have a conversation with you before knowing who you are. Let an introvert trust you, you have the best “friendship”, “business associate”, family friend you can ever get or wish for. When we let our guards down, you get the real deal.
Great thinkers and world-shakers are introverts even though it seems the world is in support of extroverts. The likes of Barack Obama, Bill Gates, Marilyn Monroe, Donald Glover, and Meryl Streep to name a few are introverts. I am not different from my siblings nor I am different from other extroverts, what I need from you is an understanding of who I am and what I can be if you let me. I am an Introvert!